Settled.

I am very happy that people can settle things nicely and without unpleasant or get things worse. I think that when we are blowing on our top, we should not settle things. Reason being, things might get worse. For the case of Doug, made me realised one this. Yes, he has the right to angry by all means. He has the right to scold his parents or anything for that. But, given a good reason behind, I am happy that he didn't. No matter how angry he is at that moment, he still can act cool and make things right. He always so kind. You treat him bad, he never will take revenge on you. He will still say nice things to you and think for you. Dan and I thought he would blog it out and vent things out on his blog, but he didn't. He told us, " Blogging it out, doesn't make me feel good at all. It might make me feel worst. Yes, blogging it out make me feel good but make the one feel bad. Does it makes me better? It makes me same as that person. Why turn yourself into devil while you can behave like an angel?"

This is really making sense after relating cases after cases. When I am angry, I blogged things about others, it made me like a DEVIL. But if I blogged it only after I made it right, I no longer like a DEVIL. And not all things need to be blogged. Just like him. I remembered the WAR of D&D back in months. Doug acted his way. He never blog anything bad or about the case of Daniel. What he did was that he emailed Daniel. He did shared it with me and he did tell me everything. He listened to my advices and act things right. Yes, sometimes my advice might sound like I am siding Daniel or Doug, but is just all about fairness. =)

While, this time round, Doug didn't blog about any issue of that case. He shared with us everything and emailed and talked over the phone with his parents after he had cool down. He told us the reasons are that, "When we are angry, we never use nice or kind words. All words said are hurtful. Emailing is just to give them a brief of what going happened next. And yea, words sometime cannot express thing while. YOu might not using that tones but words on writing made it to be some tones. Talking on phones make things better. You can fully expressed it out. And understand better of how others feel." 

Doug, I really takes my hat off. You are really someone or a person that I need to learn from. From you and Daniel, I learnt a lot of things. You always teach me on EQ while Dan teaches me on IQ. 

*I should stop blogging about things that I am unhappy with and choose to blog about things I am happy with. Trying to learn to use nice and good words to describe unpleasant things actually is also a form of courtesy. *

Thanks, Doug! I really learn something out of your case.